By Michael Webb Note: Get 500 Love Making Tips Here
Did you know that people who try to spice up their sex life with poor lovemaking tips, often make their experiences LESS fulfilling? It’s true. Over the years, I’ve seen couples forget these critically important lovemaking tips and make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives, and I’d like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems. Here are the 7 lovemaking tips or more precisely lovemaking mistakes you need to know about. Are you making them?
Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may think? Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they’re just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are. And you don’t need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That’s nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring variety to your passionate play that aren’t crude or dangerous and that your partner is sure to be comfortable with. So ask
MISTAKE #2: Trying to convince the partner to make love
If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works. On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their body releases the chemical ‘adrenaline’ into the bloodstream. This chemical is what gives you the energy to make love. So here’s how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they’re tired. Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give him fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the day. For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He’ll like that.
Want to drive your lady wild, even when she’s too tired or “got a headache”? Try this. Women really love kisses. Not just a peck on the cheek dude. Deep kissing. And as you run your fingers through her hair, kiss her neck and take it slowly! I really mean slowly!! Slower yet! Linger longer and longer on her neckline, her eye lids, the bridge of her nose, under her chin, etc. Ok, now put a bit more passion into your kissing and caressing and as you look into her eyes, you’ll know. Her eyes will dilate and look gorgeous!… You may proceed.
MISTAKE #3: Way Too Fast – Way Too Soon! Slow down dude and let your partner warm up a bit.
The longer we are with someone, the sooner we as guys, tend to skip the lovey-dovey stuff and the sooner we want to get straight to the sex. Big mistake! Foreplay is part of the enjoyment and it’s part of the requirement for most women to experience a great sexual experience and to reach orgasm. In fact, the more time and energy you spend with foreplay, the more intense orgasms will be for both parties! Yup – If you slow it down and kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying. So SLOW DOWN. Take your time.
If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful, entertaining sort of way. (This works like crazy.) If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then come back to do it some more a bit later. The more you pull back and push forward, the more they’ll want it. And the more intense their experience will be.
MISTAKE #4: Introducing something your partner isn’t ready for, such as toys or porn
When your sex life hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thingy will instantly take things through the roof. Wrong!… While toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling. Why? Because you don’t want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses’ body parts before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.
Men often feel “unmanly” if they can’t satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women can’t achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking. Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there’s no need to get upset when their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a woman).
MISTAKE #6: Trying to “finish” at the same time
Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on the woman’s needs first. Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.
MISTAKE #7: Forgetting to Change it Up a bit.
You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar?
No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there’s no denying it can get boring over the years. And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your relationship.
Here’s a great love making tip...
This is actually one of the best ways to improve your sex life, and your marriage – just change it up a bit. Keep it fresh and interesting – and yes, that means both of you. The same old thing, will eventually become the “same old thing”. And you DON”T want that!
About the Author: Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of “500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets”, a book full of lovemaking tips and other ways to spice up your relationship, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience.
To read more visit his website now for fantastic, lovemaking tips.